A good job is hard to find – especially in 2020. However, as many people say, one shouldn’t forfeit their life in favor of their job. Why do they say that?
Well, it’s because people often think that if they don’t have a job anymore, their life will be finished. This is also something that employment attorneys face quite often– namely people who won’t report something happening within their workplace because they’re afraid of losing their job.
The same happens in a relationship as well. A job can come with a lot of benefits, but it can, one way or another, affect other aspects of your life. Your life doesn’t depend on your job – nor your job on your life.
As such, let’s take a look at seven signs telling you that your job is ruining your relationship!
Avoiding Relationship Realities.
Late-night shifts usually don’t affect relationships. However, if the one working those shifts refuses to notice the realities of their relationship, then the job can become a problem.
In short, jobs with long shifts shouldn’t make you miss out on the things that define a relationship. Namely – spending time alone or having a date night!
Your Partner Wants a Change.
Partners want changes for various reasons. Still, if you think your partner is the one in your life and they still want a change in terms of your job, then this means that there’s something wrong with the latter!
The most obvious sign that your job is ruining your relationship is your partner telling you this!
You Can’t Balance Both of Them.
People have worked jobs for a very long time – and they didn’t complain. This means they were able – more or less – to balance family/relationship and job time quite well.
If you can’t do that, this means there’s a problem somewhere. Usually, the problem is the job overeating your time, resources, and so on.
Work is Eating All of Your Attitude and Energy.
Many times, we’ve noticed newly employed people who soon lose all of their will to live. This is because their job stresses them so much that they simply don’t have the time or the strength to be themselves.
This is clearly a sign that could use an intervention of sorts!
Less Time with Your Partner.
If you and your partner don’t live together, a job shouldn’t take your personal time away.
However, if your job makes it extremely difficult for you two to even see each other, then you know that some things need to be addressed!
Work Issues Create Home Stress.
One of the worst things that could happen is work-related issues creating stress in your home, in your relationship.
If you and your partner have arguments or fights based on something related to your work – even on the fact that you work too much -, then you have to do something, as soon as possible!
Work Comes in First Place.
As we mentioned, a good job is hard to find. A good job is also essential – to hold on to and so on. Still, a good job should never put your family or relationship second.
Keep in mind that you’ll eventually retire and your work won’t want you close. Instead, your family will want you there. So, make the right choice now and put them first, early on!
The Bottom Line
Usually, it’s not hard to notice how your job is eating your relationship away. However, there are cases when someone doesn’t quite realize how much they put into work or how much their work steals from them.
This is why we recommend you to assess your situation – both work and relationship regularly. This will help you figure out if you are balancing the two of them right!